“We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.” – Unknown
The American Heritage® Dictionary of Idioms states that this old proverb means to “deal with a situation when, and not before, it occurs”. The origin of this proverb has apparently been lost but it sounds a lot like something one of my grandfathers or dad would say (as a father now for some 12 years, I have found myself saying things a lot like this for no apparent reason). This saying speaks of living in the present and not fretting over things before their time. I, on the other hand find myself frequently crossing bridges before I get to them, completely disregarding the sound advice of this proverb. I can easily start thinking about the bridges and the dangerous waters they span well before I even see them or know of their actual existence. What is worse I can work out my crossings of imaginary bridges and place a great deal of energy into it. Is this another way of worrying about the things of tomorrow when there is plenty of worry in today?
I could tell you any number of stories from this week alone where I spent time crossing bridges well before they came to pass. However, I’ll go back in time to a journey to 4 14,000 foot peaks with a friend that involved the decision to cross a bridge or not. My friend Jerry and I planned a four-day trip to climb Oxford, Belford, Missouri and Huron in the Collegiate Peak Range of Colorado. These 4 peaks were not anything real extreme by the standard routes however mountains can drastically change when the weather worsens or you find yourself a little off the beaten path.
For most parties in decent shape Oxford and Belford can be climbed together in one day. It starts with a crossing of Clear Creek (on a nice bridge) on up to Belford, then descending to the saddle between Belford and Oxford, climbing up to Oxford and then following the same way back hiking up and over the top of Belford again. The ups and downs can wear on one a little so there was another option that called out to us for consideration. One could descend straight down the gulch from Oxford and bypass the summit of Belford again, but as my handy guidebook noted: “From Oxford, a tempting glissade may be had northwest into Belford Gulch for the descent; however, the pleasure of upper Belford Gulch gives way to the cold task of crossing Clear Creek minus a bridge. In high water, a rope is a necessity.” – A Climbing Guide to Colorado’s Fourteeners by Walter R. Borneman and Lyndon J. Lampert. The guidebook also noted this route was not advisable for children or beginners. Well, Jerry and I certainly were not beginners or children so this decision to chance the crossing minus a bridge was something we would entertain.
As we climbed up Belford that first day in constant rain we felt ourselves weighed down by the added pounds of all the water we seemed to be soaking into our gear. The thought of carrying our sorry selves and all the water we had absorbed back over the top of Belford again was not real appealing but we dreaded the Clear Creek crossing. We had created for ourselves bridges (or lack thereof) of concern on either side of the journey.
The moment of truth occurred after we finished munching a little lunch on the top of Oxford. Did we have the gumption to climb up and over Belford again or were we going to chance the Clear Creek crossing? Fatigue won out and we headed for the short cut straight down Belford Gulch.
Needless to say after all these years I don’t remember all my thoughts on the descent but from my journal entry of that climb I did reflect the mounting concern for the crossing. Matter of fact I can look back at my climbing journal and find many an entry discussing the warnings identified in the guidebooks and the way these played on my mind as I climbed peaks. I could tell you a great deal about the concern I carried for negotiating the knife-edge ridge on Capitol Peak for weeks before the actual climb (but that is another story).
Well the moment of truth arrived as we were at the bottom of the peak and we saw Clear Creek. It was as fast and deep as advertised. It was also colder than expected. I don’t know how we decided this, but Jerry attempted the crossing first. Perhaps I suggested it? That way if he washed away and drowned I could be available to notify his next of kin…Well, he stepped in and was instantly in to his knees, then suddenly he dropped in to his waist and had trouble fighting the current. Finally he righted himself and fought against the current. After a great deal of work he was across. Now it was my turn. I guess Jerry could now notify my next of kin. After much the same kind of struggle I was across. Victory was ours and we were happily on our way to our wet tent and sleeping bags.
I share this story as an example of what many of us do with our own bridges and crossings. We hear some news or rumors of a situation or trial that could be coming our way or perhaps we are sure that it is at our doorstep and we begin our fretting. The crossing could be the loss of a loved one or a serious disease or maybe something difficult and troubling at work. The list can go on to the inconsequential and minor inconveniences of life. Undoubtedly crossings will occur for us but the key is not letting these dominate our hearts and minds on our daily journey. For how often have we faced crossings that are years away or never even come at all? Why do we spend the emotional energy with these crossings that often never happen? Perhaps it is a lack of trust in the One who walks with us on this journey. We feel we need to take this journey into our own hands and that includes worrying and fretting about the future crossings.
Jesus said “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:34 NRSV. I confess I have been gifted in this crossing bridges deal well before the bridges arrive and have found many of the crossings truly never were needed. But I am learning more each day to enjoy the journey with the One who goes with me. In fact, He is the One who carries me across the swift waters. He is my bridge.
Blessings as you cross your bridges.
Scott Toillion for Wellspring,© Copyright 2007
The American Heritage® Dictionary of Idioms. Houghton Mifflin Company, 1992.